Why Do You Suffer from Negative Thoughts and Behaviors? And How Can You Get Rid of Them?

Why Do You Suffer from Negative Thoughts and Behaviors? And How Can You Get Rid of Them?

 

In the name of Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah.
My brothers and sisters, peace be upon you and the mercy and blessings of Allah.

Yesterday, I posted a message that says: What you practice daily, you master.
Everything you do day after day becomes a habit; once it becomes a habit, you master it, and once you master it, it becomes a file stored inside you.
But the problem is that most people do not understand what a “file” means and how it works.

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How Does the Brain Work?

The human brain is divided in both a conceptual and a biological way.
The conceptual division consists of:

• The conscious mind: the one we think with, speak with, read with, eat with, and interact with people through.

• The subconscious mind: the main memory of the human brain, where all information and all files are stored.

The subconscious mind starts storing information from the stage of pregnancy, specifically from the seventh or eighth week, when the nervous system and the sense of hearing begin to develop.
Hearing is the first sense that receives information.

The Child Hears While in the Mother’s Womb

While the child is in the mother’s womb, he hears:

1. The mother’s tone of voice

2. Her sadness or happiness

3. Her arguments with her husband or children

4. Shouting, insults, and tension

All these sounds are stored in the subconscious mind as files.
The effects of these files do not appear immediately but show later as behaviors when the child grows up.

A mother once told me: “My child is very calm, he does not scream much and does not talk much.”
I told her: your child is now in the stage of being filled with files. Just wait. This quiet child may be a time bomb if the files are negative, or a great blessing if the files are positive.

 

Why Did the Prophet Command Us to Play with Children?

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“Play with your children for seven years, discipline them for seven years, and befriend them for seven years.”

In the first seven years:

• The child is not ready for logical discussion

• But he is fully ready to receive information only

If correct values are not planted during this stage, the child will later take information from outside sources:
a bad friend, a neighbor, or a corrupt environment.

Where Do Adult Behaviors Come From?

Every fear or negative behavior in an adult is a file stored in the subconscious mind.
For example, fear of the “ghoul” is not logical, but it is a file planted in childhood through repetition.

And here we reach the key word:

Repetition

Repetition is the key to programming the subconscious mind.

1. You repeat a football move → you master it

2. You repeat reading the Qur’an → you memorize it

3. You repeat insults → you become skilled at insulting

4. You repeat a bad habit → it becomes a permanent behavior

What you practice daily, you master; then it becomes a file, then a behavior, and finally a part of your personality.

Sins and Repetition

A sin does not become fixed from the first time, but through:

1. One time

2. Two times

3. Three times

4. Dozens of times

It turns into a stable file in the subconscious mind.

Allah says:
“No! Rather, a stain has covered their hearts because of what they used to earn.”
Meaning that repeated sins leave black dots on the heart until it becomes darkened.

How Do You Get Rid of Negative Behaviors?

By the same rule: repetition.

• A bad habit → replace it with a good habit

• A negative file → replace it with a positive file

Examples:

• You do not wash your face in the morning → start doing it daily

• You do not exercise → start little by little and repeat

• You are afraid → train yourself to face fear through repetition

Positive files replace negative files over time.

This rule can be used:

• Either to fix yourself

• Or to destroy yourself

The choice is yours.

This is how a child is programmed, and this is how adult behaviors are formed—all based on repetition.

I hope this information has benefited you.
Peace be upon you and the mercy and blessings of Allah.